There is no such thing as male genitalia on a trans woman, because she is a woman. This means that the body a transgender woman is a woman’s body, even if that body happens to include a woman’s penis.
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There is one thing that I think it’s important to address before I share a specific answer to your question, which is that transgender women are women, full stop. As there is increasing visibility of transgender people and other queer identities online, in our media, and out in the world, I think it’s important that we grapple with questions like yours directly and intentionally. Thank you for sending in this question about such a vulnerable and personal topic. I reached out to Sara Connell, sex positivity educator and host of the Queer Sex Ed podcast, to respond. Can “queer” be included in your marketing efforts? You put your best images out there without making a false impression. To me, online dating (especially profiles) are part marketing. But others would say no, that I cannot use “queer” unless I date men. Now, intersect that with the usual “am I queer enough” problem.Īm I queer enough because I play with penises on trans women? I’d say I’m at least queer adjacent. It would also get rid of homophobes who otherwise would be interested. If I called myself queer, I’m guessing more poly/kinky folks (like me) would be interested. Can I call myself queer for that? If I do, I’m guessing that I would get more interest in online dating from transfolk or people who consider “queer” a selling point.
I accept them as women, so I had no problem with the penises. That means I’ve dated some transwomen who still had male genitalia. If you have a sex or love question you’d like Jera to answer, email DM Jera on Twitter can use the word “queer” in a dating profile? The best term for me is gynophilic. Just the Tip offers smart and compassionate sex and relationship advice from queer non-monogamous kinkster Jera Brown.